Following on from last months post I thought I would update on how our No-vember actually went and some nuggets of wisdom that I will take forward with me into the festive season and beyond.
I really admire how you set boundaries over November Karen, lots of this post resonated, especially this bit:
"I realised that it’s absolutely ok to say yes and then later say no. This is something I wouldn’t normally do in fear of upsetting someone or appearing fussy but following my gut felt good and I will now aspire to keep this going."
I'm going to remember this for when I'm faced with a si.ilar situation, which I undoubtedly will be over the festive period!! X
It felt stretchy to change my mind at the time, it was easier not to say no after the initial yes but I think having the pact in place helped me to give myself permission to say no - if that makes sense! We are allowed to change our mind, people don’t have to like it but our decision don’t have to be fixed, especially when there’s a very good reason for going back on it! X x
I really admire how you set boundaries over November Karen, lots of this post resonated, especially this bit:
"I realised that it’s absolutely ok to say yes and then later say no. This is something I wouldn’t normally do in fear of upsetting someone or appearing fussy but following my gut felt good and I will now aspire to keep this going."
I'm going to remember this for when I'm faced with a si.ilar situation, which I undoubtedly will be over the festive period!! X
It felt stretchy to change my mind at the time, it was easier not to say no after the initial yes but I think having the pact in place helped me to give myself permission to say no - if that makes sense! We are allowed to change our mind, people don’t have to like it but our decision don’t have to be fixed, especially when there’s a very good reason for going back on it! X x
That's it isn't it, giving ourselves the permission to say no. The people pleasing runs so deep in me!